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Pervert Dragon
It doesn't have to be painful.
If you're a masochist and thrive of the feeling of extreme pain then there are plenty of people who will be only too willing to 'hurt' you. Then there are some activities can appear to be painful when in fact the opposite is true if things are done correctly. For example, a hard spanking can look intense and painful and will leave marks. Sure, enough if someone was to hit you full force from the start it absolutely would be painful. However, if they start gently and build up giving your body time to adjust, they could end up hitting you just as hard and it won't hurt you. Having said all of that, there are plenty of things to do that don't involve any kind of pain, so you don't need to endure pain to enjoy play.
Who is really in control?
When you look at a BDSM dynamic from the outside you could be forgiven for assuming that the Dominant is in control. After all, they are the one calling the shots and telling the submissive what to do right? You could also be forgiven for assuming that the submissive is in control, as they set the limits of what they will allow to happen and have the power to stop the scene at any time by withdrawing their consent. However, the reality is that both are in control, because without the participation of everyone, there is nothing to control.
When it comes to play, the Top is the one in control. They are the person 'doing things' and they will control the play space and everyone within it. They operate within negotiated limits, and anyone can stop play, but ultimately the Top is the one running the scene and ensuring the safety of everyone involved.
If you're a masochist and thrive of the feeling of extreme pain then there are plenty of people who will be only too willing to 'hurt' you. Then there are some activities can appear to be painful when in fact the opposite is true if things are done correctly. For example, a hard spanking can look intense and painful and will leave marks. Sure, enough if someone was to hit you full force from the start it absolutely would be painful. However, if they start gently and build up giving your body time to adjust, they could end up hitting you just as hard and it won't hurt you. Having said all of that, there are plenty of things to do that don't involve any kind of pain, so you don't need to endure pain to enjoy play.
Who is really in control?
When you look at a BDSM dynamic from the outside you could be forgiven for assuming that the Dominant is in control. After all, they are the one calling the shots and telling the submissive what to do right? You could also be forgiven for assuming that the submissive is in control, as they set the limits of what they will allow to happen and have the power to stop the scene at any time by withdrawing their consent. However, the reality is that both are in control, because without the participation of everyone, there is nothing to control.
When it comes to play, the Top is the one in control. They are the person 'doing things' and they will control the play space and everyone within it. They operate within negotiated limits, and anyone can stop play, but ultimately the Top is the one running the scene and ensuring the safety of everyone involved.